The+Impact+of+Deathon+a+Family

Death leaves a family with a daily feeling of grief, guilt, and the desire of "wishing" we had known more about the person's wishes and desires. []
 * The impact of loss: The Grieving Process:**
 * Denial and Shock:** At first, it may be difficult for you to accept the death of a loved one. As a result you will deny the reality of death. This denial will gradually lessen as you begin to express and share your feelings about death.
 * Anger:** During this stage the most common asked question is "why me?". You are angry at what you believe is unfair and you may project your anger unto others. When giving someone social support and respect, you will eventually become less angry and be able to move into the next stage of grieving.
 * Bargaining:** Many people try to bargain with some sort of deity. They probably try to bargain and offer to give up an enjoyable part of their lives in exchange for the return of health or the lost person.
 * Guilt:** You may find yourself feeling guilty for the things you did or didn't do prior to the loss. Forgive yourself. Accept your humanness.
 * Depression:** At first you may experience the feeling of great loss. Mood swings and feelings of isolation and withdrawal may follow. It takes time for you, to gradually return to your old self and become socially involved in what's going on around you.
 * Loneliness:** As you go through changes in your social life because of the loss, you may feel lonely and afraid. The more you are able to reach out to others and make new friends, the more this feeling lessens.
 * Acceptance:** Acceptance does not mean happiness. Instead you accept and deal with the reality of the situation.
 * Hope:** Eventually you will reach a point where remembering will be less painful and you can begin to look ahead to the future and more good times.


 * Experiencing the Death of a Sibling as an Adolescent **

The loss of a sibling is so intense that they may wish to regress like a child. Children have a much harder time understanding death, then adults.

__**How this relates to Holden:**__ Holden is always in denial, and always tries to withdraw himself from his relationbships with other people. Holden rebels against his parents, to get noticed, to get some attention, his parents however are to busy to even notice why Holden does this. He is a very lonely guy, he doensnt really have friends, and pretty much keeps to himself. Holden also feels guilty about fighting with his brother Allie that has died, also he always thinks why it had to be his brother Allie and not him, himself.